About Counselling & Psychotherapy
‘Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not’.
The paradoxical theory of change, Arnold Beisser M.D.
Carl Jung says 'neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering'. There seems to be 'necessary suffering' that comes with life and aids our personal growth and development. However, unnecessary suffering happens when we are too young, and/or don't have a good support network around us and/or we are too overwhelmed to fully process the difficulties and challenges that life throws at us; challenges such as trauma, loss, bereavement, performance anxiety, addiction, depression, anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, ill-health and major life changes. When we engage in Counselling and Psychotherapy we are offered an accepting, compassionate and safe place in which we can explore and express our thoughts and feelings about whatever is troubling us at these times; to accept and acknowledge ourselves and our 'legitmate suffering' so that healing can take place and unnecessary suffering can be eased. In therapy we may be encouraged to explore and challenge unhelpful thoughts, beliefs and behaviours, and to rediscover our own innate strengths and wisdom, so that we can look beyond the immediate problem and gain new perspectives. With increased awareness comes the possibility of making more creative choices which, in turn, enables us to lead more fulfilling lives. In terms of the difference between counselling and psychotherapy, there is an ongoing debate. In very broad terms, counselling usually focuses on current issues and symptoms and can be completed in about 6 to 12 sessions, while psychotherapy usually works at a deeper level on a longer-term basis, often focusing on our earlier developmental experiences and how they contribute to present symptoms and issues.
About EMDR Therapy & Trauma
‘Trauma is not a life sentence'
Traumatic symptoms can result from the experience of an overwhelming event or a series of distressing ones. Common symptoms include irritability, anger, panic attacks, feelings of shame and guilt, isolation and fear, hypervigilance, poor sleep, restlessness, being easily startled and avoidance behaviours. Research has been conducted demonstrating the benefits of EMDR in treating psychological trauma arising from experiences as diverse as war related experiences, childhood sexual and/or physical abuse or neglect, natural disaster, assault, surgical trauma, road traffic accidents and workplace accidents. EMDR can also be extremely effective in healing early attachment issues and in the relief of panic attacks and phobias. The National Institute for Health & Clinical Excellence (NICE) has validated EMDR as a preferred method of treatment in the NHS for post-traumatic stress disorder.
About Supervision & Supervision Groups
‘Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.'
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I offer EMDR and Counselling supervision on a one-to-one basis and in small groups. Small groups offer the added richness of peer interaction while, at the same time, remaining intimate. They are also a cost effective alternative to one-to-one supervision.